College is a Wonderful Place Full of Candy Around Every Corner (or Advice to College Freshmen)

I teach a first year experience course, and at the end of the course, the students write a paper giving advice to next year’s freshmen. As college freshmen begin to move on campus and start the next phase of their lives, I’d like to share some of this (hilarious) advice.

– “Do not fall in love with the first guy or girl that you meet. That was harder than I thought!”

– “In high school, freshmen get picked on all the time and are thought of as the scum of the earth. However, in college, I have found that the only difference between a senior and a freshman guy is facial hair.”

– “…through a lot of hard work, blood, sweat, actual tears, racism, stares, breaking down, doubt, a car crash, and one concussion later, I have learned to persevere.”

– “You can get a job at the school, like making sure people don’t steal stuff from the library.”

– “The good drink machines are on the second floor. It has all the good drinks and always works.”

– “I still remember the look on my face when my parents left, and I was lost. Now I look back with a smile on my face, because now I have no fears.”

– “…sometimes it was interesting, and I liked it, but other times it was boring and I fell asleep.”

-“Most kids are used to being spoon-fed their whole life, and they really do not know how hard it is to be on their own.”

-“You never think you would miss beating up on your little brother every day until you can’t anymore.”

-“When you’re sitting in bed debating on whether or not to go to class, get up and just go,”

-” I thought if I could go here and become a better wrestler, get big muscles, and possibly a girlfriend in the process, then why not?”

-“It’s nice to have a little brotherly brotherhood.”

-“After extensive private lessons in American Sign Language, I now know how to sign bacon.”

-“Being away from home is hard. Especially 2,355 miles away.”

-“College is a wonderful place full of wonderment, surprises, and candy around every corner. Ok, I lied about that last part.”

You just can’t make this stuff up!

Letting Go

I’m obsessed with quotes. I  have books of quotes. I put quotes as my Facebook status. I Google quotes according to how I feel. So, tonight I want to share a few quotes I’ve found about letting go, moving on, and moving forward. We all have something in our lives that we need to let go of or move on from. So, let’s make a concerted effort to do so!

“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”

― Mary Manin Morrissey

You’ve gotta know when it’s time to turn the page.”
 Tori Amos

“Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.”
― Nicole Sobon

“You can’t look back – you just have to put the past behind you, and find something better in your future.”
 Jodi Picoult

“Moving on is easy. It’s staying moved on that’s trickier.”
 Katerina Stoykova Klemer

“Never believe that an hour you remember is a better hour because it is dead. Passed years seem safe ones, vanquished ones, while the future lives in a cloud, formidable from a distance.”
― Beryl Markham

“She took a step and didn’t want to take any more, but she did.”
― Markus Zusak

“It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things.”
Theodore Roosevelt 

Finish Each Day And Be Done With It

I had a bad day yesterday. Not just a normal Monday, but a tears-streaming-down-your-face kind of Monday.

Monday meme, I hate Monday

Photo from weknowmemes.com

I don’t know what my deal was, but I was glad to just be able to go to sleep and start fresh today. And today I actually had a really great day, a much happier day. Ralph Waldo Emerson has a poem that reminds me how to get through a no good rotten day.

“Write it on your heart
that every day is the best day in the year.
He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day
who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.

Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with your old nonsense.

This new day is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays.”

― Ralph Waldo Emerson, Collected Poems and Translations

Emerson confessed to be an optimist,and I need a good dose of optimism sometimes. I need to remind myself that I’m not having a bad week or a bad year, just a bad day. Each day is new and fresh. I think my favorite line is “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.” So, on that note, I’m going to bed.  :]

Beware the Barrenness of a Busy Life

I hate when someone tells me they’re too busy to do something! You choose not to do something. You make time for what you think is important and what you want to do. The other stuff gets pushed into the “too busy” category. Today I was too busy to do laundry, but I had time to go out to eat with my friends. I just chose what I had time for. It’s just in how we prioritize.

It seems like our society tells us that we MUST be busy every second of the day. Sometimes I even feel bad when I do something relaxing, because I feel like there is something else more pressing that I should be do. I should be accomplishing something. Do we always have to be busy being productive? It’s sad that I feel conflicted about taking a nap or reading a few chapters from a book. Shouldn’t I be cleaning? I could be getting ahead at work, right? I should at least be exercising! No, no, no.  Don’t be too busy to actually slow down and enjoy life. You miss a lot when you’re too busy! And some of the best things happen when nothing is planned and nothing has to be done.

Some people take on too much. You’ve got to learn to say no. Do just a couple of things well, not a ton of things half way. Do less, but be amazing at what you do.

I am obsessed with quotes, so here are some quotes about busyness:

There is more to life than increasing its speed. -Mahatma Gandhi

Ever notice that even the busiest people are never too busy to tell you just how busy they are? -Anonymous

The really idle man gets nowhere. The perpetually busy man does not get much further. -Sir Heneage Ogilvie

Beware the barrenness of a busy life.- Socrates